Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God
as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”
He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid
because I was naked; so I hid.”
And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”
And the man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”
And the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
The bad news is that sin always makes us want to hide—from God and from each other. We don’t like admitting we are wrong, so we hide, blame each other, or make excuses. God wants us to come out in the open and face up to our mistakes.
The good news is that God is always out there looking for us, calling “Where are you?” God knew where Adam was. But He wanted Adam to know where he was and face up to what he had done. God has a remedy for mistakes and wrong choices. From the very beginning it seems clear that God is in the business of restoring people to fellowship.
Wisdom tells you to keep short accounts with each other in the face of misunderstandings or wrongs done in marriage. But scared humanness still wants to hide or blame. It’s the difference between being open with each other or closed.
If you want a happy marriage (and life with God!) you will learn how to settle all misunderstandings and wrongs quickly. You have to stop wearing your own designer fig leaves. What have you to lose by admitting you were wrong?
Love covers sin, yet love also exposes sin. Love is responsible; it has an abiding quality. It will never be transformed into something better, for it is itself the
transforming power. Love begets love. Love knows no age limit; love never ends.
Forgiveness is God’s gracious gift of love to you. God is getting you ready for heaven where you will know perfection. But right now He wants you to start with honesty.
Marriage is full of opportunities to love and to extend grace to each other. Both of you are imperfect. When you keep on loving and extending grace, you are living out the image of God in you.
• What do you still need to learn about handling guilt?
• How can you keep from handling resentments in sneaky ways?
• How sure are you of God’s forgiveness of your sins?
Prayer: Father God, thank you for calling out to find us wherever we are. Help us to be honest with you and with each other, unafraid to admit wrong and to ask forgiveness. Give us open faces and open hearts. Thanks that failure is not final with you. Amen.
This excerpt was taken from I DO: 30 Readings to Inspire Love and Conversation About Important Issues in Marriage.
©2010 by Gladys Hunt and Keith Hunt
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